Getting ready for your wedding day is one of the most exciting times couples experience. Making all the preparations, deciding who to invite (and who not to invite), planning the honeymoon – just a few of the decisions that can be incredibly time consuming. With all the focus on preparations for the “big day” many couples don’t consider taking the time to invest in strengthening their relationship.
How many engaged couples have in depth conversations about their finances, spiritual beliefs, child rearing, sexual expectations and extended families? How many young couples spend time learning how to have healthy arguments with each other? These are just a few of the many areas that help to ensure a long lasting and fulfilling marriage. When shopping for a premarital counseling program here are a few topics that would be helpful to make sure your therapist works with you to address:
Creating & Maintaining Healthy Connections
Relationship Roles & Expectations
Cultivating Intimacy & Sexual Expectations
Children & Parenting
Married couples often seek me out as a final effort to save what is left of their relationship. Their histories riddled with hurt, resentments and bitterness these couples have rarely developed a healthy way of communicating and disagreeing with each other. With significant repair work these couples often recover, however building their relationship on a healthier foundation would have saved them from a lot heartache.
Unfortunately there is a negative stigma around the word counseling in many circles in our society and most people believe “counseling is supposed to fix something that is broken”. We all have areas we can grow and counseling is one efficient tool we can utilize to help hone various aspects of our lives. Premarital counseling is just that, a way to help develop a healthy foundation for the most important relationship you’ll ever have.
Some research suggests that couples who pursue premarital counseling have as much as a 30% higher marital success rate than those who did not. With the average cost of a wedding these days being nearly $30,000, and divorces unequivocally more, the financial and time commitment to premarital counseling is minimal. Taking the time to invest in your relationship will likely be one of the most rewarding things you will ever do as a couple so start your marriage off on the right foot!
Click here for more information about our upcoming premarital workshop. If you have any questions, or would like more information about premarital counseling contact Nick or Marlayne and we would be happy to answer any questions you may have.