Patterns of anger often form outside of our awareness because we take in the unspoken rules of our family before we can comprehend that there may actually be other options in expressing anger. Here are a few patterns of dealing with anger that families often perpetuate.
Anger is unacceptable and we will not tolerate any signs of anger at all.
Smile and pretend like it doesn’t bother you. A message many families communicate.
Do they act like anger doesn’t bother them and then retaliate when it is least expected?
Was one family member allowed to be angry all the time or express their anger?
Changing an anger pattern begins with determining your own pattern. How do you usually express your anger and resolve conflict? You might want to pay attention to how you typically respond when someone has an opinion that is different from yours. Stay tuned for more on identifying anger patterns.